When making a speech it can take on many different forms and can be written in a variety of ways.  With a wedding speech, especially the father of the bride speech, it has to follow a certain format.

Etiquette and guidelines for bride’s father speech

wedding toastEtiquette for this particular speech commands the father to welcome everyone who has taken the time and energy to make this momentous occasion happen and to make it so special for the bride and groom.  The father of the bride on the behalf of the family has to thank everyone for helping to celebrate the wedding of your daughter.  You also need to make sure that you take the time to take the people who put on the reception, the person who performed the ceremony, the photographers, etc.  You also need to make sure that you look at your daughter and son-in-law and tell her just how beautiful she is on her special day. You should also make sure that you mention some of her qualities, talents, achievements and just how proud you are of her. Find Here More Examples

You will also need to make sure that you compliment the groom and talk of his achievements and you must welcome him to the family.  You will also have to give a few words of advice to the new couple, which could be said in a teasing manner.  To end the speech etiquette dictates that you give a proposal toast to the bride and groom by wishing them a long, happy, successful marriage for years to come.

Examples of father of the bride speeches

Father of the bride speeches can be written and delivered in these different ways, which include:

  • Humorous format
  • Serious/sentimental
  • Hybrid mix of the two

Humorous format

If people around town or in the community know you as “quite a jokester” then this type of speech should be easy for you to write and say.  This father of the bride speech format would be full of humor from the beginning to the end of the speech but it should not be mindless jokes but should have a piece of advice and a lesson in each one.  You can use your own jokes or you can go find jokes online that are wedding-related or from your friends.

Some of the same jokes that you could use include:

  • “Eighty percent of married men cheat in America and the rest cheat elsewhere.”
  • To the groom “In the beginning of your marriage you will notice it is hard to get the final words in any discussion.  Over time though you will soon learn how to always get in the final two words in every discussion, just be sure that the two words you are using are ‘Yes Dear’”
  • “Thank you everyone for being  here today to join in the celebration of my daughter’s and son-in-law’s wedding.  Just to let you know the seating arrangement has been organized specially.  For all those guests who have brought smaller inexpensive gifts are at the back of the reception hall and all of the guests who brought large presents are in  the front of the reception hall.”


If you do not like being noted as the “funny man” all the time you can make your speech simple, sentimental, serious, and memorable.  This format will let you tell a lot of heart warming stories with compliments for everyone, and a lot of generous encouragement.  At the end of your speech say a toast or even a poem.

Some samples that you can use include:

  • “I lift my glass and give a toast my daughter and my son-in-law, a man my daughter chosen to be her companion for life.  A father has doubts at time this day will ever happen, and at times he may fear this day.  My daughter is and always will be, my princess, and will always be the little girl who stole my heart.  May joy and happiness be with her and my son-in-law always”.
  • “A toast to my daughter, God’s gift to me.  I have always been thankful to have been given the pleasure of being her father.  I pray God will continue to bless them both and provide them for the rest of their lives, love and happiness.

Hybrid of both

If it is possible try to keep a balance between serious/sentimental and hilarious when writing and presenting your speech.  One way to do this is to start off funny.  Then you can slowly move into the parts of the speech that are serious.  This is a very important thing you are going to do when you are giving them advice.

Tips for making the father of the bride speech great

  • When making your speech make sure that you are not crossing your arms in front of your chest.  It not only comes off as rude but also indicates that you would rather be in a different place than making a speech for your daughter, son-in-law, and guests
  • Make sure that you try to stand still when giving your speech.  Keep walking to a minimum.  It is recommended that you use hand gestures such as patting or stroking the shoulder of your daughter and son-in-law.  Make eye contact when possible.
  • If at all possible try not to have cards or cheat notes when giving your father of the bride speech.  If you are afraid that you will mess up or forget something you have to say, go ahead and use notes.  Try not to read your speech off the notes or cards but glancing at them now and then is okay.
  • Make sure that your speech ranges from seven to nine minutes.  You do not want to be to short that it sounds rushed nor do you want it so long that everyone starts to become bored and looks it.

Final words

Following these etiquette rules, guidelines, and tips will help you deliver a father of the bride speech that is very emotional and will be very memorable to your daughter when she looks back on her special day. It is important if you could make that happen, because this occasion will occur only once and it’s like your last chance to show a good amount of respect towards your daughter.

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